2 Rope Dildo Harnesses – help needed!

Thank you so much for your reply,

If we use a cock ring it has to be one of the silicon ones, because none of the metal cock rings we found when we were looking for a pre-made harness were big enough. I wasn’t sure if a silicon cock ring would be supportive enough to use with rope, also, it would be so tight around the dildo that it would be impossible to run any rope through it to support the base of the dildo, unless I special ordered something. That’s why I mentioned the dildo has balls, I thought maybe I could somehow use those as a stabilizing force.

That’s the primary problem. These things are freaking huge. I know how to make a standard body harness for a female, and could easily adapt it to fit a regular size dildo, but the ones he uses are extremely large (like, the kind they buy for bachelor parties as jokes), so I thought someone might have some tips or suggestions for how I can create a stable harness using a different method, or a standard method with a few tricks from experience, or something.

Also, I’ve never been on the giving end of a penis, particularly a large floppy one, so I need something that’s going to keep it sturdy and in place while I get used to how to manage it.

The same applies for the harness I need to keep the dildo inside him when I’m not wearing it. I’m familiar with a body harness for a woman, but I’ve never made one to go on a man, and usually if the rope runs through the back where I need it to go to hold the dildo in place, it also runs through the front of me. I need it to not suppress his penis, and go around it in a way that won’t restrict his ability to move.

So basically there are just a few problems that put this a little out of my league. I was hoping for a suggestion or a link to a how-to that might help. Really, anything. Thanks for reading and asking about the ring.

Thank you so much for your suggestions. I don’t know why it didn’t occur to me to make my own cock ring – I’m making everything else but the dildo, why not make that, too? Hell, maybe I’ll make him some anal beads out of synthetic rope to play with while I’m setting the rest of this up. I’m a rope lover, although like I said, I’m usually the one being tied up. I think he’ll enjoy it just because it’s something new and different, a sensation he’s not familiar with already, I’m just worried about his patience. While I can sit for hours and enjoy the feel of rope running over my body while it’s being turned into something beautiful and/or functional, he may not enjoy sitting still while waiting for me to finish so we can start the activities he’s interested in.

He doesn’t know if he’s a rope lover, but after discovering what we can do together with it, I hope he’ll learn to enjoy it, if not love it, the way I do. Do you know of any online video’s, or how to guides, or links you could send me to so I can see how this is done on a boy. I know a harness is pretty basic, but I’ve only ever done harnesses on girls, so I’m not 100% how to make his so it goes around his cock without constricting him, and I’ve never done a strap-on harness before. Really, any link or reference you could provide would be appreciated more than I can say. All my books are in storage right now, and I’m not quite sure where to go online to find this sort of thing without sifting through porn.

I feel like maybe I’ve offended people by asking such a rudimentary question, or did I go about this in an improper way? I don’t really spend a lot of time on Fetlife, so my etiquette might be lacking. I posted to two groups, this one, and another that has 29 thousand members, and you are the only person who’s responded. Did I go about this wrong, or is it just that it’s such a simple thing that people figured I should work it out on my own online?

Regardless, thank you so much for your help, Louloup_belle. I very much appreciate your input, and the ideas you’ve given me. They’re helping me form a vision in my mind of how this will work when it’s done, now I just need to figure out how to put it together. Your suggestions have added quite a few practical layers between “conception” and “completion,” and I appreciate it very much. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. If it’s okay, I’d like to add you as a friend. Then you can see the pictures of him in his harness when I’m done with it.

That link is awesome, thank you! Also, if I’m careful where I hang the balls, it keeps me with open access, so he can suck my cock, then my clit… perfect!

Also, I think I could easily reverse this process to keep the cock in his ass. I’d have to tie it a little bit tight, but I think if done properly, maybe with some adjustments, it could keep the ass in place and there’s no restriction on his cock at all…

This is pretty much exactly what I was looking for. Thank you so much for your help!