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You might want to post a picture of the bed and the areas where you want to place the eye bolts. I would consider the eye bolts permanent and devise a system for quick release. If you are using chain, there are quick-release clamps. With ropes, you always can use emergency scissors. Just to get ideas, you might want to spend some time looking in an old hardware store, not a big-box store. You also can do a Google search for “eye bolts” and press images. Follow the trail of an image that intrigues you.
for me it’s pretty clear, to have the full experience, smell and surrounding/looks are also very important. so I will always go for natural fibers. I had some other robes, but i have thrown them away. Now my collection is mainly cotton, jute and hemp.
Cotton, is the soft one, leaves almost no marks, so can be very handy if you have to be carefull. but it slips a lot and is weak.
Jute is my favorite rope kind. love the smell/feel etc. but still it is not the strongest naturalrope.
Hemp is my main suspension rope kind. it’s strong, feels good, bit rougher then the other two, but great to bind with.
next to those three I also have some very rough natural rope made of a special grass kind. not comfortable, really strong and will give burns. because sometimes it’s also nice to punish with bondage;)The one true answer is it depends. On the flogger, on the person using it, on your mindset, if you’re restrained, etc.
I use a big, heavy, thuddy flogger, and alterate it with belts, crops, a sharp mini flogger, etc.
After a nice gradual warm up, I increase the intensity. Veronica says that she starts to float, and about a half our in, she’s taking some very hard strikes with no problems.The keys are a good warmup, and constant communication with your Master
Most Japanese professional rope masters who I have met said this ;
‘100% credit should go to the model in the show, not to me’
Almost everyone has said the same.
I think post is spot-on. That’s the traditional Japanese concept for the Kinbaku show(or photo shoots, whatever).
To me it seems that a lot of Japanese riggers purely want to be a humble craftsman in the show whereas many Western ones want to be an artist in their own right.
(no one should say meaningless things like, which way is better/true, etc. Nothing is better. Both are good)Even if people don’t come to the riggers and don’t compliment them in their face, I am sure people appreciate the rope work somehow. Appreciations don’t always have to be visible and direct.
Maybe there is a big (cultural) difference between the Japanese way of thinking and the Western way of it? I don’t know… But I personally think that in general Western people want appreciation and compliment a lot more than we do.
(e.g. The reaction after you compliment someone is quite distinctive. As far as I have seen, in the West, most people would reply ‘thank you’. But in Japan, people often would say ‘oh no, it is not like that, you don’t have to compliment, but thanks anyway…’ etc, etc)In our relationship, there IS a primary and secondary role, I am married to a man, then we have a girlfriend, so she is currently secondary, since we have not been with her long and are still entangling ourselves with her.
However, we don’t use those terms in conversation. We know her as our girlfriend, as things grow and progress we would say “lover”. We don’t even use those terms with one another, we simply realize that we will more than likely never fall in love with anyone as much as we have with one another, though we do believe we can and will fall in love with another woman, if that makes sense?
Then again we aren’t going huge with how many relationships we have, so maybe in larger poly groups those terms are easier to use and easier to make connections between the people.
