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i think its a good list for a NEW submissive, but like others said number 4,5 and 6 really depends on who you are, and the type of thing you like, but for a new sub who has never experienced being whipped it would probably be best for the person whipping them to be kind about it, but it doesn’t really apply to all people who enjoy being whipped. Also when making “rules” you need to remember that other people who play don’t always do it that way, it would be better as suggestions instead Rules, that way you don’t spark up a disagreement you don’t want to get yourself in, or get a shit ton of reply’s solely about your “Rules” being incorrect, that being said if you are trying to word things so they can apply to others make sure they actually make sense and are easily understood, 6 while it is good, is a bit hard for people to understand. the first few are great, they apply to being whipped all across the board. the last few are kind of unnecessary and don’t apply, some people, myself included enjoy extensive, intense pain when being whipped, though that may not be good for someone just starting out, its what many people like. anyway enough of my ramblings, the first 3 rules are fantastic, the last are less than, they should be included as mere suggestions.
I bought plain, white twisted nylon from a hardware store that was 1/4 inch thick. The first pack I bought was fifty feet, and I cut it into one thirty foot length and two ten foot lengths. The longer lengths was for body ties like chest harnesses, and the shorter ones for hands and feet. At that time I was tying simple things like spread-eagles and hands behind the back. Price was also a consideration, and I built up more rope over time.
I’ve since switched to natural fiber like hemp and jute, because it has more tooth and the knots and wraps hold better. I use thirty foot lengths, because I’ve also started tying more Japanese-style bondage. It’s the combination of rope and technique that I prefer, but I still have some of the nylon in case the person I’m tying doesn’t like the feel of hemp or has allergies.
I’ll agree that Two Knotty Boy’s videos and books are a good place to get starting ideas, and that safety is important too.
Hope this helps. Good luck and have fun!That link is awesome, thank you! Also, if I’m careful where I hang the balls, it keeps me with open access, so he can suck my cock, then my clit… perfect!
Also, I think I could easily reverse this process to keep the cock in his ass. I’d have to tie it a little bit tight, but I think if done properly, maybe with some adjustments, it could keep the ass in place and there’s no restriction on his cock at all…
This is pretty much exactly what I was looking for. Thank you so much for your help!
Thank you so much for your suggestions. I don’t know why it didn’t occur to me to make my own cock ring – I’m making everything else but the dildo, why not make that, too? Hell, maybe I’ll make him some anal beads out of synthetic rope to play with while I’m setting the rest of this up. I’m a rope lover, although like I said, I’m usually the one being tied up. I think he’ll enjoy it just because it’s something new and different, a sensation he’s not familiar with already, I’m just worried about his patience. While I can sit for hours and enjoy the feel of rope running over my body while it’s being turned into something beautiful and/or functional, he may not enjoy sitting still while waiting for me to finish so we can start the activities he’s interested in.
He doesn’t know if he’s a rope lover, but after discovering what we can do together with it, I hope he’ll learn to enjoy it, if not love it, the way I do. Do you know of any online video’s, or how to guides, or links you could send me to so I can see how this is done on a boy. I know a harness is pretty basic, but I’ve only ever done harnesses on girls, so I’m not 100% how to make his so it goes around his cock without constricting him, and I’ve never done a strap-on harness before. Really, any link or reference you could provide would be appreciated more than I can say. All my books are in storage right now, and I’m not quite sure where to go online to find this sort of thing without sifting through porn.
I feel like maybe I’ve offended people by asking such a rudimentary question, or did I go about this in an improper way? I don’t really spend a lot of time on Fetlife, so my etiquette might be lacking. I posted to two groups, this one, and another that has 29 thousand members, and you are the only person who’s responded. Did I go about this wrong, or is it just that it’s such a simple thing that people figured I should work it out on my own online?
Regardless, thank you so much for your help, Louloup_belle. I very much appreciate your input, and the ideas you’ve given me. They’re helping me form a vision in my mind of how this will work when it’s done, now I just need to figure out how to put it together. Your suggestions have added quite a few practical layers between “conception” and “completion,” and I appreciate it very much. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. If it’s okay, I’d like to add you as a friend. Then you can see the pictures of him in his harness when I’m done with it.
Thank you so much for your reply,
If we use a cock ring it has to be one of the silicon ones, because none of the metal cock rings we found when we were looking for a pre-made harness were big enough. I wasn’t sure if a silicon cock ring would be supportive enough to use with rope, also, it would be so tight around the dildo that it would be impossible to run any rope through it to support the base of the dildo, unless I special ordered something. That’s why I mentioned the dildo has balls, I thought maybe I could somehow use those as a stabilizing force.
That’s the primary problem. These things are freaking huge. I know how to make a standard body harness for a female, and could easily adapt it to fit a regular size dildo, but the ones he uses are extremely large (like, the kind they buy for bachelor parties as jokes), so I thought someone might have some tips or suggestions for how I can create a stable harness using a different method, or a standard method with a few tricks from experience, or something.
Also, I’ve never been on the giving end of a penis, particularly a large floppy one, so I need something that’s going to keep it sturdy and in place while I get used to how to manage it.
The same applies for the harness I need to keep the dildo inside him when I’m not wearing it. I’m familiar with a body harness for a woman, but I’ve never made one to go on a man, and usually if the rope runs through the back where I need it to go to hold the dildo in place, it also runs through the front of me. I need it to not suppress his penis, and go around it in a way that won’t restrict his ability to move.
So basically there are just a few problems that put this a little out of my league. I was hoping for a suggestion or a link to a how-to that might help. Really, anything. Thanks for reading and asking about the ring.
My husband and I have been doing some aerial silk acrobatics classes. My teacher has a bull rope there, and helped me compare the same suspension techniques on rope and silks. The silks are far less painful and more forgiving. Crotch suspensions are not weird on the silks.
A possibly more interesting bit is the culture. Kids in middle school are encouraged to do self suspensions 15 feet up on the silks with dynamic 8-10 foot drops, with 1 demo and minimal supervision before trying hard stuff. Being inverted for prolonged periods is just something folks get used to on day 1. Pain is a given that all the vanilla class goers just get used to. Dynamics (big rolls, twists, and drops in the air) are totally the norm – fear just doesn’t seem to be on the menu. The level of core, arm, and leg strength that is expected, for you to be able to play is, frankly, awesome. Coming into rope with that background could be pretty amazing.
At a minimum, I’d want a good steel or wrought iron bed with a headboard & footboard. You can usually leave the chains attached and stuff them between the mattress & box-spring so you can be chained down quickly..
Massage tables are another option, most fold up and stuff into a bag, & they’re usually narrow enough so your Dom can work both sides.. with enough rope, you can be made completely immobile, while still being fairly comfortable.. And they can be easily explained if Mom comes to visit & notices it.. The best part is the price, check Craigslist and you’ll often find really nice ones for under $100..
Both Zenocrate and TomatoBoobs have a similar vein of thought to mine. The partners I have dedicated to for life have decided, on their own, how they want to be introduced by me to others. Even though I have had a ceremony with both individuals, the person I am married to on paper is my “spouse”. My other partner is my “significant other”. I can’t label one as more primary than the other because we make decisions as a family; not two couples.
