Relly1960
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I just had a lesson. It was a trip. I’m very good with my hands, like using tools, have good dexterity etc., it is NOT an easy thing to do right. The main issue is “wrap around”. It is surprisingly difficult (at least for me) to get the right technique, control the weight of the blows and to hit the target correctly. Some of it is non-obvious. I am planning to get more instruction and supervision before doing it on my own. The last thing you want to do is mess it all up, hurt and scare your partner because if they don’t have a good time it could be a downer. Also I strongly suspect that there is a learning curve for the person receiving.
There are portable steel tripod frames that collapse and take up very little room storage wise. The ones I have seen have been custom made. In terms of affordable, that depends on what you consider affordable, as well as what tools and skills you have at your disposable. If you have the tools, strong mechanical skills and can accurately calculate the weight bearing requirements, you could make your own. In my opinion, wooden frames do not have the same versatility in terms portability and storage, but require less specialized tools to make. In either case, there are various plans available online. There are a few available for sale online that typically cost several hundred dollars, plus shipping/freight. In terms of those available for sale online, my advice would be buyer beware. Make sure you know what you are buying and who you are buying from. The same goes for plans that are available online. Do your homework, do your own calculations, and talk to people who have actually done it.
Hi all
New to this group and saw this post.
I can say my love/sub has been chained up not gagged tho in the bedroom when the plumber came. I shut the door and left her in there as I went around with him. Every so often I left the plumber to check that my spread eagled toy was ok and still safe. she was greatly turned on even though it was one of the first times we had played and she was terrified.Look forward to chatting with you all again soon.
You should try the vendor/maker list (sticky post up there) and look at the products we all make, many of us make lots of varieties/styles and in lots of different materials too.
For instance I make DragonTails and DragonTongues in suede and leather very supple materials that lead to fluid motion and are very capable of raising welts. I make 9Tails in latigo lacing which are very stingy and can leave marks. I also make leather barbed wire with hand tied knots in 3 different weights/thicknesses which is all sting. And I am working on what I call monkey fisted barbed wire which will combine thud and sting.
And that’s just the leather, then there is rubber which may be closer to the feel you are looking for.
Happy Shopping there are a great number of choices, some even reasonably priced if you know where to look. 😉
Not like titles or categories really matter for this conversation but I would say your bouncing on the line between an open relationship and a poly relationship.
To me it sounds like your really in the danger zone with your relationship. If your relationship is the most important thing do yourself a favor and cut the other guy loose asap. no contact. Normally I would never say that. But I also do NOT recommend Poly, Open, swinging etc to fix a current relationship. Your getting emotionally involved partly because you want to. You need to take ownership of that. Partly because there is a void, partly because of other reasons like the newness of it, etc.
In the 12 years I have been swinging I have seen many a poly relationship fail. Love triangles are not easy to handle. In fact never have I seen one succeed. But again finding myself slightly off topic.
I think you should date multiple men for the fun of the quart-ship and sex. It really needs to be enough people that you do not think about any of them in a way that threatens your relationship until you get a hold of those feelings and how better to compartmentalize them.
I’ve been finding that I do use the term “primary” sometimes to refer to my girlfriend, who I’ve been with for longer, used to be monogamous with, and with whom I’m raising a child. What I like about the term is that it lets others know she’s not my only partner, and since we’re not actually married it’s more technically accurate than calling her my wife. But I don’t refer to my boyfriend as my “secondary” partner; I just call him my partner or my boyfriend. I don’t like the hierarchy that the terms primary/secondary imply, and I try not to invite that level of categorization into our lives.
