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Favorite flogger- the one you’re holding at the time (my preference) would be the 1″ x 30″ black and purple ones
Handle- always liked the ones you put flames on with your signature “A” on the hilt
Style – your hard impact Florentine
My first suspension frame was the sex swing people have mentioned. It is a great start for a beginner and can be taken down fairly quickly.
If you have the MONEY, buy a suspension frame. I happen to like:
Bonds of Steel Portable Suspension
with an over sized topper.if you don’t have the MONEY and don’t understand engineering/construction, go with a playground based bracket solution. Topologist mentioned it earlier in his post:
If you have room for an A-frame design, these corners are affordable and make an ultra sturdy frame. Just add wood. Whole thing can be assembled for under $200 to any dimensions you choose.
If you understand the engineering, wood beam loading wood construction techniques, build a frame over designing it for static/dynamic load and force in any direction of movement. This means you need to know things like how to find good wood in a lumber yard, where holes should go and where cross members should be and how to attach them.If I was in your shoes with a smooth ceiling, I would cut it open, put in a hard point. Alas, I don’t have smooth ceilings but these swirl pattern which I am in no mood to replicate before moving out.
I’m sure everyone is different,but here is my 2 cents.
First you have to find another couple you are both physically attracted to. I don’t know how many times my lady and I looked at a couple and went “Oh,she’s cute,we could have some fun with her but her man is flat nasty.”. So you need to make sure both of you find both partners of the other couple attractive and acceptable
Next,you have to get to know them. Chat with them and discuss things you like and what you don’t like. My lady will give head,but I’m the only one allowed to cum in her mouth. You have to communicate things like that.
If you have never done any kind of activity like this,it might be a good idea to start with just same room sex. Then you can progress to just the girls playing together,soft swapping and then try full swap once you are comfortable
If you have a bit of experience and know what you are looking for buying online is fine. If this is your first time buying a flogger you should use caution online shopping as many large commercial sites stock the same mass produced in foreign places stuff. However, there are plenty of flogger makers here on fet and many of us have our own websites or sell our wares on ETSY of other places.
If you don’t have a lot of experience wielding floggers it can be hard to know what size/length you will be comfortable with, if you can make it out to an event with vendors I would recommend it highly as it can be very helpful to pick up handle and swing a variety of things to figure out what you like.
If you have any specific questions feel free to email me.
A good book on recreational/non-relationship sex (aka swinging) is “Together sex”.
Poly is having multiple relationship, it does not means that there must be on equal footings, I have learned that everybody is different and each situation is unique so no need to fit yourself in a one-size fits all.
What you describe are two relationships. One can say that it is unfair to place the burden of fulfilling all of your needs on one relationship, for exemple you might want a hiking partner or a sex partner if your relationships do not fulfill these needs. Onnthe other hand if a relationship becomes empty you might consider moving away – loving the person is not a good criteria for deciding to stay with somebody, but it can be a factor. I know I love a good number of people and want them to be happy, but that does not mean I want or can live with them or even have a continuing relationship with them, even if they state that this would make them happy.
In other words, you have to decide what to do. First be happy, then decide what relationships you want to have, then find non-relationship partners for the remaining needs.
To me it sounds like a lot of riggers have never created any other kind of art. I am a photographer, a writer, and even a bad painter. The person in the rope is part of your art. When they compliment her or him they are complimenting your work, your art, your skill. The rope bottom is just as much part of the art as your rope. It is no different then a person whispering at the painting on the wall. Those that come to you to stroke your ego are not interested in your art but in what they can get from you. There is not greater joy then to observe someone discussing the complexity of a shot and the skills in my photographs. It is also nice when they notice the subjects in them as I thought they where worth placing with my art.
