Tindst79
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I slip a t-shirt onto a pillow and then slide one side of the shirt over a music stand so I can raise it to standing height. Of course, you’d need one of the more sturdy music stands to hold a pillow.
Other than the music stand, I’ve also just stacked a bunch of pillows on a chair next to a corner of a room until I could get the target pillow up to standing height. Look around and see if you have a piece of furniture (dresser, chess, table) that will allow you to place the pillow at the height you want. I thought the couch suggestion above could possibly work if the couch is against a wall, has a relatively flat back, and you prop the pillow up on the back of the couch against the wall. Maybe one or two pillows (or a box, some other suitable object) to raise the pillow up a bit more to standing height.
We use leather dog collars that close with a buckle and have and eye for a leash, They also have material on the inside and do not scrath. We bought them at a dollar store for 2 bucks each
Flogging does not have to be painful at all, in fact I’ve heard more than one person say that it can be like a massage. The pain level involved in flogging depends entirely on the person swinging the flogger, if they are smart and experienced and know their implements and control their swing flogging is quite enjoyable. The size and material of the flogger itself is also a factor but any implement can be used with a light hand.
If you have questions about specific materials or types of implements feel free to message me.
There are big cultural differences between Japan and the West and manyy westerners don’t see it or frankly don’t really care. Humility is not a big or important thing to most in the west.
Personally I look at it this way. It is the model that makes my rope look good. What I do isn’t all that special or notable.
In my trips to Japan it is obvious that interactions are very different that what we grew up with in the west. If one goes to Japan or does Kinbaku thinking it’s all about them, in my opinion they miss the true essence of the art.
Thank you for sharing this…
I find inherently problematic using the term “Secondary” to define or refer to relationships because of the hierarchical preference it insinuates. For me, the “Primary” is the person I feel most connected to, a stable person that I have a deep intimate and trusting relationship with and can return to as a source of support. (“the person I make the rules with”) but I prefer to have a mutual understanding of where things stand and a continuous dialogue as things change instead of calling them a “Primary”.
The use of terms like “secondary” or “tertiary” seem to insinuate a tier of preference in terms of fulfilling needs. I understand how the language can be useful to poly couples or families with more structured relationships (or hot in a D/s context), but I prefer to keep an open dialogue with all partners as our relationships and needs/desires evolve. This can be tricky because everyone’s understanding of and associations with terminology used may differ somewhat, but open discourse is essential to making any relationship work, poly or otherwise.
