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As we all know not everyone can do arms behind. I would make sure she is streching her shoulders. But to your question.
at an RSG of KC rope lab I got the idea to do a box tie with arms in front but tge rope work behind. I saw that bunnies that could not do arms behind felt bad because their rope looked so different.
Start with your double column tie in front with your friction at the bottom instead of the top. Sthe next part is fun. Crotch rope(yay). Then build your tie as if the stem came from her arms. Its not 100% the same but the bunnies like. They lije the look better and who doesn’t love crotch rope!!!. I did have one bunny that let her arms droop down ward that was an easy fix. But fir most that won’t be an issue
I have not tried suspension from this tie so I would recommend against it. But only because I haven’t tried it.
Unfortunately though some swinging clubs can get pretty pretentious after they’ve been open for a while. My bf & I are looking to get back into it as well and cant decide how best to go about it. We were both in it before with different partners and have different ideas of what would be an easier/lower pressure way to delve back in. He’s used to playing directly with 1 couple that you meet from a site whereas I find parties to be a very low pressure way to mingle with like-minded folk and get a feel for any chemistry you might have with them. Do keep in mind though that it’s much more difficult finding chemistry between 4 people rather than 2 and if you don’t set up some kind of tell/safeword or way to indicate you’re not into someone you could end up in a “taking 1 for the team” situation which will likely put you off trying it again. But I would go into whatever situation with the idea that you don’t play unless everyone is into it. Don’t let other people or your inexperience expressing your needs/wants to put you in a situation you aren’t comfortable with.
It is the same with floggers, The educate is that one flogger should be for one person. But rarely in a bar scene is it the case. I myself have used the same gloves publicly for now 9 years But, I have a alcohol spray, wash my leather lightly with dextrous soap, a hospital only acquirable substance. BUT, still I have contracted MRSA from a open zit on a girl’s ass.
Let me tell you a story about the hospitals here in Toronto. One of them, had a problem with an OR one of the most sterile environments on the planet. Every operation ended with the patient contracting MRSA. They narrowed it down to the doctor’s farts. They have subsequently stated testing EVERYONE coming in the door. In 2005 I hosted a night that did blood play on a stage in the venue… I would NEVER do now. Times change.
new to the site but this sounds like a worthy project id like to take on. Im mainly rope and furniture but do leather as well (Tandy leather is your friend all hardware is rated for horse tack very strong and great selection and the local are amiable to all kinds of questions) ive done several saint andrews crosses that flip over to be a table you uncrew legs and srew in the eyebolts etc etc
I have fallen out of favor with using the term secondary, though when I used it I used it to mean, my other relationships (all of their own strengths and flavors and commitments) who were not my primary. I defined primary as the person I make the rules with, the person who is more of a partnership than someone I am dating. I have taken to calling him my primary partner and other people my partners.
I find this unproblematic because it describes the situation. Being poly doesn’t mean all relationships have to have the same parts, “primary” to me means the solid one. The rock. The support. The one I grow with.
The others, they are gifts. Lovers, playmates, friends-I-can-kiss, but they are not the same.
I refuse to say that they will not evolve into primaries, and maybe eventually I will need to find a new word. But I don’t mind acknowledging that different relationships have different power to me.I also don’t mind that some people would prefer different words or all out free-love style, that’s just not what I happen to have.
